We all have messy lives because we are all human. Just like messy rooms are difficult to function in, so messy lives are difficult to function in... on our own.
Since most of my Christian life I’ve been seeing with only my natural eyes (2Cor. 4:18), my life has remained quite messy. With troubles on all sides, there was always a crisis to pull me away from the Lord, the true source of all peace and joy (Eph. 2:14; Jh. 15:11). Once I shut the Lord out, it was easy for the devil to make my life far worse because now I was trying to do it all on my own. Once I learned to trust the Lord in all matters- good or bad, my journey became easier to walk for I am no longer trying to do it on my own.
And everywhere we go there are other people living messy lives, even in our own homes. Throw us together and what do you get? Even bigger messes that need to be worked on. Ugh, more work! Perhaps we should all become recluses; just avoid involvement with other people and their messes altogether. Or perhaps we should just retain surface friendliness with everyone. All is good as long as you keep your mess to yourself and I keep mine to myself. After all, we’re all too busy to deal with each other’s mess.
But God never intended for us to be alone. He was to be with us (Gen. 3:8) and then He gave us the companionship of other humans (Gen. 2:18). The two ‘greatest’ commandments are about relationship with God and man (Mr. 12:30,31). Scripture is full of teaching on how we should live and deal with one another. These are some examples of messy lives involved with other messy lives:
Now we exhort you, brothers, warn those who are unruly, comfort the faint-hearted, support the weak, be patient toward all. 1Th. 5:14
But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return. And your reward shall be great, and you shall be the sons of the Highest. For He is kind to the unthankful and to the evil. Therefore be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven. Lk. 6:35-37
Involvement. Jesus prayed that we all would be one as He and the Father are one (Jh. 17:21) so obviously He wanted us to be involved in each other’s lives, even if they are messy. Some of the best things in life are ‘born’ out of mess: the perfect birthday cake, the rebuilt engine, the ideal house, and the newborn baby.
Encourage, bear, love, confess, give, warn, forgive, help, nourish, cherish, be: tenderhearted, patient, merciful, sympathetic, compassionate, kind, humble, meek, treat with honour, in their best interests, put away bitterness, wrath, anger, slander, malice, lies, deception, arrogance, envy, rudeness, irritability, resentment, selfishness, childishness… and I’m sure I could find many more in Scripture.
The point is, these are all actionable relationship words so God obviously wants us involved in each other’s lives even in the mess. And together, arm in arm (with Christ as head) we shall rise amidst this present mess in strength of unity as the bride of Christ- without spot or wrinkle, holy, without blemish (Eph. 5:27) and victory will be ours forever… in Christ Jesus!
bless our messes and help us be the brothers and sisters we need to be to each other.